Creating the Relationship You Desire - Do You Know What You Really Want?

Creating healthy and loving relationships should be easy but for many it seems that relationships get messed up and end in separation or divorce. Why are relationships so difficult? It is because we need to know what kind of relationships we really want, so we flow as a couple instead of banging our heads together for control.

The old adage 'know your self' is important in relationships. You have to know what you want in a relationship in order to nurture and develop it. So here are some questions and tips for you to bring clarity and understanding of your relationships. They may assist you as you create the relationship you dream about.

Relationship Questions

1. What does 'love' mean to me?
2. What qualities of love do I want in a relationship?
3. What are the positive qualities of your partner that attracted you to him/her?
4. What is your partner's behavior reflecting back to you about yourself?
5. Are you trying to change your partner's behavior?
6. What thoughts nurture a relationship?
7. Can you let go of trying to 'control' your partner?
8. How can you share with your partner?
9. Is your heart open to truly love and be loved or do you have some baggage to let go?
10. Are you loving and respecting of yourself?
11. What changes can you make to bring more peace into your life?

Relationship Tips

- Focus on what you want, rather than on what you do not want.
- Only say good things about someone.
- You cannot change another person, but you can transform yourself.
- When your heart truly opens to love, your 'poor me' feelings leave.
- Respect your partner's right to choose what he/she wants to do.
- Enjoy time on your own to explore your creative side.
- Love yourself everyday and shine as brightly as you can.
- Embrace your personal power - you are in charge of how you feel and what you do in every moment.
- Create a loving relationship where there are 'spaces' for each one to create, to love and to flow...
- Forgive yourself and your partner ... each day is a new beginning.
- Say 'Yes" to peace in your life and make some changes. To have peace in your life, simply be peaceful!
- When you inner self is calm, it is reflected in your outer world.

By Jane Booth Robertson

I Love You

You have so many things no one else will ever have.

You have all my love – now and forever.

You have my admiration – for being such an incredibly precious person.

You have my unending gratitude – for the way you brighten my life.

You have all my hopes – all gently hoping you know how glad I am that you warmed my world and touched my very soul.

You have my every affection.


You have my desires and dreams.

You even have things there are no words for.

You have whispered words that belong to you, thoughts you have inspired, and blessings that have touched the deepest part of my heart.

You have the most beautiful wishes the stars and I can wish, and my prayer that someday I’ll be able to thank you for all this.

You have a standing invitation to share the days with me – and to be the one and only person who holds the key to my happiness.

You have arms I want around me, eyes I want to lose myself in, and joy in your voice that I could listen to forever.


You have empty pages in the story of your life – pages I’d like us to write together… filling them with memories we’ll make and stories that will travel beside us and carry us over whatever comes along.

You have my sweet appreciation – for taking my smiles places that my heart has only dreamed of.

And you’ll always have me, and “thank-God-for-you” feelings, and soooo much love.